I was out at dinner tonight and I saw this guy whose confidence made him so sexy. I was with friends waiting for our appetizer to arrive when I heard this guy walk-up to a couple of beautiful women and said, “I would very much like to join you two for dinner tonight. I know we have never met, but I’m great at conversation and would enjoy the luxury of dining with two gorgeous women.” This guy wasn’t much to look at physically, but his confidence alone turned me on.
You know how they say, “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” Well I think there is something to it. I believe one’s visual perception can change when the other senses are stimulated, smell, touch, taste, but more important, hearing. The confidence in his voice was so sexy; I looked at him again and thought, “Damn he isn’t that bad looking after all.”
I guess what I’m saying is, if you ever see me, don’t be afraid of coming up and introducing yourself to me no matter what you think you look like. Who knows, I might find your confidence sexy too. But remember, don’t confuse cocky with confidence.
What kind of picture will I upload, if I want to be a Peter Fever Model?
I want to see as much as possible to make a good decision. At least to your underwear. 5 good pictures in difference poses is ideal.
wow! I’m a shy person, so I don’t think I can have that confidence! LOL
Hey Peter, confidence is sexy. But the ironic thing is that you really can’t witness it in others until it becomes action. Yet, you don’t need anyone to witness it to really have it.
And believe it or not, it lies within everyone. The reason I say this is because I cannot give anyone confidence…but I can help bring it out! It’s a process.
In the past when I was in the security field, it didn’t matter how much “tough” I thought I was, I had to make the other person believe I was “that tough.” I used to manage the security department at a chain of grocery stores. At the time I was 5’4 and around 175 and would have to take on guys (wrestle) that were around 6’4, 250 Lbs. and I would be able to overpower them and get them under control…but it took time to be able to get to that point.
But confidence is such a strange…”attitude.” And the reason I say that is because it is best perceived when it’s witnessed in action but once it’s witnessed in words, it totally alters it’s perception but not by the person “performing” it. For example, when I used to do security, I was very good at what I did and have a track record to prove it. But…if I translate that into words and “tell” you that I was very good at what I did, then it changes your perception of me but has not changed the confidence in myself.
So…you can have all the confidence in the world, you just can’t tell anyone…and it is best “witnessed” by others rather than shown to them.