Is having a hot personal trainer the best thing for the client? I guess it depends on what you want. I’ve been training clients since 2004 and I have met so many types of people from serious competitive bodybuilders, to people who want to look and feel better, and of course there are those who want a personal relationship with me.
I started noticing that I was attracting different kinds of clients just a few months into training. Some clients would take the sessions seriously while others just wanted to talk the entire time. They didn’t want to train or listen to any of my advice. Then some of the people started bringing me food or gifts from trips they had just been on or even invited me to go on trips with them.
Sometimes I feel that my looks actually keep me from being a great trainer for all of my clients because it becomes too much of a distraction for them. I mean I love my clients and I understand sometimes you fantasize about your trainer, but eventually most people get over it. But then there are times where the fantasy becomes all too real.
I had a female client who initially wanted to lose weight, but after a few sessions she just wanted me. It began to get very creepy. For my birthday, she brought me a gift from Hawaii, but I wouldn’t accept it. Then, in another session, she talked the entire time about how much she missed and NEEDED me. That’s when I decided it would be our last session.
I’ve had male clients practically stripping in the middle of the gym saying they wanted my opinion on their muscles. Then they wanted to change the terms of the training sessions, they wanted to pay to watch me train myself and in particular they wanted me to perform squat exercises in tight shorts.
It’s one thing for people to visit my site which is setup for exactly this, getting off watching me perform. But it is another when you are in a professional environment, trying to help people, and they treat you like a sex object instead of the skilled and certified trainer that I am. There is a time and a place for everything. I’m a sex object on PeterFever.com, I’m an expert training adviser on PetePhysique.com, and I’m a professional trainer at the gym. As long as people can keep these straight, everything is good. But there are always those few who feel it is ok to cross the line. Well, I put them in check; cross the line and I cross you off my list of clients.
After all, you can’t let people take advantage of you, not matter what your profession. It all starts with self-respect, then enforcing that others respect you as well; when they don’t, cut them off. Stand up for yourself. Trust me, you might feel uncomfortable at first when you insist that people respect your boundaries, but after a while you will feel in control. So stop waiting, take control!